Here is a great example of how wedding planners can help couples to memorialize the love and gratitude they feel for their parents. Thank you Lynette for sharing your experience with us.
Enjoy!
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“Letters to Parents: A Treasured Remembrance”
By Lynette M. Smith
Our son, Byron, married Rachael last November. At the rehearsal dinner, they each surprised their own parents with a plaque containing letters they had written to describe what they had learned from us, growing up. This was their original idea; nobody had prompted them or suggested it. They had their best man and maid of honor read the letters aloud, because Byron and Rachael knew they’d break down if reading them personally. Everyone was touched.
Here’s how Byron’s letter to Ben and me read:
To my Mom and Dad . . .
Growing up in our household has been a priceless experience. I remember taking many vacations and spending many hours in a car as just the three of us (sometimes four). I recently learned that while the destination may instigate the journey; it is, in fact, the journey itself that is the cause of personal growth. In the broader sense, life itself is about the journey, not the destination. All the past experiences of my life have cultivated me to be the man I am today.
Dad . . .
You are an intelligent man with an unmatched ability to solve all of your own problems. I have learned many things about how to be a good man from you. I have inherited your knowledge and love of machines. I have also inherited your unmatched need to understand the workings of the world around you.
Mom . . .
You are an intellectual with a zest for life and compassion for all those around you. You have the gift of empathy. You have served as mediator more times than I care to count. Your attention to detail is legendary (no doubt you will find several flaws within this letter). I have inherited your spiritualism. You have taught me how to take pleasure in helping others. I also find myself paying too much attention to detail.
There are far too many experiences in our lives to share in this short letter. I understand it has been at times difficult to raise me. I will always be eternally grateful for the experience I have had with such wonderful parents. I have tried to highlight a few things I have learned. I will continue to try to be a good person (and now a good husband). One chapter of my life now comes to an end; and I will now embark on the next leg of our journey with my wife Rachael riding shotgun.
Love,
Byron
Our plaque will remain proudly displayed. Had this letter been handwritten and unframed, we’d still have saved it forever.
Wedding planners can bring greater value to the wedding experience by suggesting that their clients write such letters. Not only is it a wonderful opportunity to consider what, in their upbringing, made them who they are today, and what values they have learned that they will apply in their own marriage; but these letters acknowledge and express gratitude to parents for a job well done.
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Besides being the proud mother of Byron and mother-in-law of Rachael, Lynette is also owner/copyeditor of ALL MY BEST Business and Nonfiction Copyediting in Yorba Linda, California. She can be reached at SmithLynetteM@earthlink.net. The letter from her son was reprinted with his permission. Copyright © 2009, All Rights Reserved.